You need love. You need to experience love. You need to feel love. You need to enjoy love.
This is the human condition.
When one doesn't feel loved, loneliness, depression, fear, low self-esteem, doubt, etc. are the unfortunate byproducts. In other words, nothing good comes from a life lived unloved.
But, what I'm coming to discover in this season of my life, in regards to love, is this:
IT IS MY RESPONSIBILITY TO COMMUNICATE HOW I NEED TO BE LOVED.
People can't read my mind. People can't read your mind. Though we wish others could read our minds, unless how we need to be loved is communicated, it is very unlikely it will be experienced.
Shouldn't people know better? Maybe. Shouldn't people ask? Sure, that'd be nice. Shouldn't people just figure it out for themselves? I guess. Unfortunately 9 times out of 10, this just doesn't take place.
With that said, I've come to the conclusion, I can't wait around for people to figure this out!
I must speak up!
If I need words of affirmation, I must speak up. If I need quality time, I must speak up. If I need physical touch, I must speak up. If I need gifts, I must speak up. If I need acts of service, I must say something!
Very often, the type of love I receive is very deeply connected to type of love I communicate I need!
If you need someone to listen to you, let them know. If you need someone to appreciate you, let them know. If you need someone to comfort you, let them know. If you need someone to give you space, let them know, If you need someone to take you out, let them know.
People want to love you. Many times, they just don't know how.
Stop being so sorry for yourself. Be humble. I'll say it again, BE HUMBLE. Ask for the type of love you need. Be specific, and give the person you're asking the appropriate time and space to respond.
What if the love you desire, is just one ask away?